Swipe right: online dating for the real world Dating I want a casual hookup, not a relationship — how do I say that on Tinder? Swipe Right is our advice column that tackles the tricky world of online dating. This week: how to find a semi-regular hookup — and avoid scary messages Got your own online dating quandaries? After years of slowly losing my mojo and sexual confidence, I am slowly rediscovering my drives and desires and now want to find someone to explore that with. Basically, I want someone to have sex with and not much else. I am looking for a semi-regular hookup with someone I can get to know over time and explore my sexuality, but I am not ready to actually meet someone for the longer term. How on earth do I ask for this on an app like Tinder without getting scary messages? Hey, you.
So as to being said, I also know firsthand what losing hope about finding adoration can feel like. Spoiler: It's not great. For those of you who haven't been there, let me dye you a picture. You've been definite for what feels like forever. The last person you met was actually great and you even saw a future with them. The two of you continued to see each erstwhile for weeks, months, or maybe constant years until you mustered up the courage to tell them how you felt. At that point, they offered up some excuse about why they're not looking for anything serious. This wouldn't be quite so tragic but this was the first time this ever happened. Unfortunately, that's not the case here.