But shortly after my program, I met a girl in a coffee shop and went on to date her for over a year. Here are some of the tips I learned from my bootcamp that taught me how to pick up a girl in a coffee shop that will help you do the same. Get women to notice you with eye contact Eye contact is great for getting your foot in the door with a woman. At that point it almost becomes awkward not to approach the woman. As a general rule if you make eye contact with a woman and she holds your gaze for more than a few seconds — or if you make eye contact with the woman multiple times over the course of a few minutes — take that as a sign the woman is interested in you and approach the woman right away. How to approach a woman After you make eye contact with the woman approach her directly with confident body language. Keep your head up, shoulders back, walk with a strong, purposeful stride, and smile.